My husband has been very irresponsible with money lately, spending almost $400 on music related items within days. The credit card is nearly maxed, so I took it and put it away until he can pay it off. He gets paid on Thursday so I planned to give it back Thursday morning when I know he can pay it off.
Normally, something like this wouldn’t concern me so much, but his dad is arriving on Friday and we have to pay $225 for a mattress for him to sleep on, and I’m due in 2 1/2 weeks with our second child, so you can see where my concern about his spending is coming from.
I feel very sad to say that I do not trust my own husband not to spend money or to keep his word. I really wish I could say that, but I can’t. Two days ago he waltzed into the bedroom at 10pm and announced he had spent $200 (before taxes, shipping and exchange rates) on vinyl records, just days after he spent $150 on two other vinyl records. He said it was okay because he wouldn’t be spending anymore money on music related things until after Christmas. I knew I couldn’t trust him, and I was right, because he turned around and bought some music tonight.
Well, he discovered his credit card was missing. I told him I have it, it is in our bedroom and he can have it back on Thursday morning when he can pay it off. It is $100 away from maxed out. This apparently isn’t good enough for him, as he began sulking, throwing a fit, started a huge fight and is now threatening divorce, claiming he’ll be in contact with lawyers in the morning if I don’t give the credit card back tonight.
He says he can no longer trust me. He has also called me a neglectful mother (we have a 20 month old daughter), an untrustworthy wife, and now I’m apparently a thief and I’m cheating on him (which I am not, never have and never would).
I love him, and I took his card to protect our family and make sure that we have that money available for emergencies only, but now he wants to leave me and get a divorce. He’s already walked out on us twice since yesterday.
I don’t know what to do. Any advice?
Short, yes I am sure he is not bi-polar.
As for calling a lawyer, I can’t and won’t do that. I made a vow and I love him. I fight for my marriage, even if it means another round of counselling for us.
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