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Last month, my husband told me that he does not love or in love with me anymore.I was shocked and cant think what to say at that moment,all i did was cry and try to think what what did i do..We been married for 15 years and we have 2 kids together.. ever since he told me that he does not stay home all the time like he used to..He gets mad so easy and he want to get rid of everything that he used to love.He is 46 years old and im 37,he said he was moving out and he wants separation from me and he needs to think..So i got him a hotel to stay in for a couple of days.did not call him or nothing.for the whole week i did not eat or sleep i was so worry about our relationship..i dont want to loose him. Im still in love with after all these years..I ask him if theres someone else, he said no,he just need some space..but my guts is telling me that keeping some thing from me.So i looked at our telephone records and checked all the numbers that is calling him and the number he frequently calls..sure enough i found 1 that calls him almost 10 times a day..so i asked him about it,he said it was a co workers number,they just talk cause this person has a problem i said ok.Few days passed same number is calling him early in the morning and late at night,for about 15 to 45 minutes. I was curious,so i called the number, woman answered the call so i hung up.I told him again about it, he said maybe the daugther of my co worker answered my call. So i said oh ok.But the feeling inside me is telling me differently,I know he is lying and when hes phone would ring he would go outside or in the bedroom and shut the door before he answer it.I confronted him about it,He got all mad telling me to leave his friends alone.but i cant stand the lie..we argued about it..telling me that every thing was my fault,i feel so guilty afterwards,i cried. whenever he off from work he would tell our daugther that he staying at a friends house,he rarely stay home now.I do not call him cause i know hes not gonna anwer my call..I was so worried about him.and whenever i tried to talk to him about trying to work things out..he always bring up all the stuff that happens in the past,we only have 2 big fights in our 15 years of marriage.I enrolled myself to the gym hope it would help me a little bit.
He always tell me that theres no one else,she just friend whos going through the same thing..i suggested to him to go ahead and get an apartment,cause i every time i see him i get this pain in my heart and i cried.I did not know what to do,he wont even let me touch him.As far as my kids they knew whats going on,they are 14 and 13.I have ask them about it ,they did not want us to get divorce.I dont want either..I love my husband very much,i cant even imagine or think being with another man.I accept him cheating on me but the lies, its killing me inside cause he was not like that.We suppose to file a divorce next week ,he said he would pay for it{uncontested} cause we both agree on a chid support and the house will be transfer to my name..He said he want us to be friends not enemy for the sake of the kids.
It was our 16 year anniversary yesterday,i bought him a card and gave it to him but i dont think he even red the card.He did not say anything..I am so confused,i ask him if he wants to go see a therapist,he said no.seems like he does not want to work thing out,so today i told him instead of paying the lawyer for a divorce ,get an apartment cause he wants to file for divorce first and then leave the house when its final and it would take 2 to 3months.i dont want to feel this feelings to continue for the next 3 months i want it to go away,i lost a lot of weight already . please any advice soon!!!
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Last month, my husband told me that he does not love or in love with me anymore.I was shocked and cant think what to say at that moment,all i did was cry and try to think what what did i do..We been married for 15 years and we have 2 kids together.. ever since he told me that he does not stay home all the time like he used to..He gets mad so easy and he want to get rid of everything that he used to love.He is 46 years old and im 37,he said he was moving out and he wants separation from me and he needs to think..So i got him a hotel to stay in for a couple of days.did not call him or nothing.for the whole week i did not eat or sleep i was so worry about our relationship..i dont want to loose him. Im still in love with after all these years..I ask him if theres someone else, he said no,he just need some space..but my guts is telling me that keeping some thing from me.So i looked at our telephone records and checked all the numbers that is calling him and the number he frequently calls..sure enough i found 1 that calls him almost 10 times a day..so i asked him about it,he said it was a co workers number,they just talk cause this person has a problem i said ok.Few days passed same number is calling him early in the morning and late at night,for about 15 to 45 minutes. I was curious,so i called the number, woman answered the call so i hung up.I told him again about it, he said maybe the daugther of my co worker answered my call. So i said oh ok.But the feeling inside me is telling me differently,I know he is lying and when hes phone would ring he would go outside or in the bedroom and shut the door before he answer it.I confronted him about it,He got all mad telling me to leave his friends alone.but i cant stand the lie..we argued about it..telling me that every thing was my fault,i feel so guilty afterwards,i cried. whenever he off from work he would tell our daugther that he staying at a friends house,he rarely stay home now.I do not call him cause i know hes not gonna anwer my call..I was so worried about him.and whenever i tried to talk to him about trying to work things out..he always bring up all the stuff that happens in the past,we only have 2 big fights in our 15 years of marriage.I enrolled myself to the gym hope it would help me a little bit.
He always tell me that theres no one else,she just friend whos going through the same thing..i suggested to him to go ahead and get an apartment,cause i every time i see him i get this pain in my heart and i cried.I did not know what to do,he wont even let me touch him.As far as my kids they knew whats going on,they are 14 and 13.I have ask them about it ,they did not want us to get divorce.I dont want either..I love my husband very much,i cant even imagine or think being with another man.I accept him cheating on me but the lies, its killing me inside cause he was not like that.We suppose to file a divorce next week ,he said he would pay for it{uncontested} cause we both agree on a chid support and the house will be transfer to my name..He said he want us to be friends not enemy for the sake of the kids.
It was our 16 year anniversary yesterday,i bought him a card and gave it to him but i dont think he even red the card.He did not say anything..I am so confused,i ask him if he wants to go see a therapist,he said no.seems like he does not want to work thing out,so today i told him instead of paying the lawyer for a divorce ,get an apartment cause he wants to file for divorce first and then leave the house when its final and it would take 2 to 3months.i dont want to feel this feelings to continue for the next 3 months i want it to go away,i lost a lot of weight already . please any advice soon!!!
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