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Three days after I found out she defrauded me, I got laid off and my father was in a hospice on his death bed waiting to die so we had to ask her parents for money to get us through. They did help us for 6-8 months and her aunt and uncle gave me a good full time job working for them. I was happy just to save the house and thought we could save our marriage. She filed for bankruptcy and I tried to pay the bills but 4 months later I too had to file bankruptcy for all her spending. To be honest, we don’t have really nice “stuff” in our house. Our first mortgage is $214,000 and the line of credit is down to $68,000 now but since the housing market went bust we prob will only get like $250,000 for our house.

My atty( and I spoke to 2 other attys) says that even though she forged my name and blew all the money without me doing a thing she can get away with it!! We are in the discovery process of the divorce and once we see all of her financial records and where the money went to, we can hopefully figure out some things. If she paid household “bills” then my atty says there is nothing I can do. I live in Connecticut. Isn’t that unreal to you reading this? I tried to do the right thing by staying together and keeping the kids in a house an not in a crappy appt but I guess I was wrong. I should have left once I found out about the forgery for $70k. Again … I lost my job and my dad was dying so I all I wanted to do was maintain. Isn’t this sad? Hopefully I can find out that she spent the money on her student loans or just blew it to cash. She did have a PO Box for a while and maybe another acct in her name. If not I will just have to take her to court and let a Judge scold her because that’s prob all that will happen. Some friends say to go after her as hard as I can and others worry about the kids.

I have to wait 30 more days for the discovery and then will have a better idea of my situation.

In her defense(I know I am a sucker) she is an excellent mother ( the worst in terms of financial) but she plays and supports them emotionally in ways I can’t) and she did get a 2nd job delivering papers for a yr after the debacle. But I think that in time, If I do nothing and just walk away because of the children, I will regret it for the rest of my life. I never will say I was a great father or Great husband, far from it, but she single handedly bankrupted myself, herself and the children and now acts like she did nothing wrong and all the money issues are a thing of the past..

Your comments pls ..
Yes I want a divorce as well so I can stop living this lie and stop staying together just for the children. I could honestly just not forgive her after the last time and we have gone downhill since then.
Since she kept it all hidden from me, I had no idea that she just blew all the money until she told me ! We dont have nice stuff and we both work full time.
I disagree with what ouragon posted saying I am lazy. Naive and trusting yes. I actually told her after the first time I wanted to take over the bills but she declined. I should have been more forceful but thats my mistake.

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