So i’m in the air force. My wife decided she also wanted to join the air force. However i got deployed and now she leaves for basic in two weeks. Out of nowhere she started saying that her feelings for me have changed and she wants a divorce. It all started happening after she kissed a girl and i got mad. Then she had my friend sleep in my bed with her (i don’t know if anything happened there or not), and then she started lying to me about everything. So i got mad, and shut off her cell phone which is in my name and i pay for. Then i told her i’m going to take the cars away (both in my name, i pay for them because she doesn’t have a job). She was super mad at me and that’s when she started saying that everything is my fault and i’m trying to cut her out of everything and now she wants a divorce for sure. She came back from her vacation yesterday and sent me an email. Here they are:
hey, i just wanted to let you know that i got back okay yesterday. the dogs didnt really recognize me at first. it might’ve been also cause i cut my hair. but they’re doing good. they were well taken care of. blue is bigger, weight wise, he looks good and sable looks good too. im gonna try to close the wamu account today (our joint bank account but my paycheck don’t go there) so we dont have to worry about it. i think that’s all, oh, and did you know that mike ( my friend, i told him he could use the car (my car)) took my car to some place like 2 or 3 hours away from here to take it camping when he has his own vehicles? i found a little grill in the trunck when i was putting my luggage in there yesterday, im not too happy about it. he put quite a bit of miles on it. but oh well i guess. but yea, im here now in one piece.
My reply was: So do you still want to give the dogs away and do you still want a divorce?
Her reply:
im gonna try to find someone who wants both dogs. i dont think its right to keep the dogs as a bourdon to jessie( our roommate) he is thinking about moving after his lease is up in novembre. so, i’ll pack your stuff up before i leave, but you are probably gonna have to find someone to pick it up and store it. i’ll just pack what is mine (clothes, pix of my fam, computer, and dvd player) umm…i had a meeting today with my recuiter and his boss and they said that it would be best to hold of the divorce process untill i get out of basic because it would hurt me if i have a civil lawsuit opened on my records. i hope that answers your question. thanks for putting that money there, but i really dont need it. but i guess if something comes up, i’ll use it. i really dont care anymore about the usaa account. im really wasnt using it to begin with i guess. but yea, that’ll be one of the things we take care of when you get back. im going to start organizing all the stuff. and when i figure out where to keep the important documents, i’ll let you know where they are.
Do you guys think she’ll regret her decisions (possibly in basic training wwhen she’s all stressed) and come back to me? Or is this kind of thing something that a marriage can’t recover from? What do you guys think?
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She will be lonely in basic and possibly miss you. You guys will try to make it work, but we don’t know what your “REAL” problems are. Also you can’t take both cars! She gets one whether it is in your name or not. I am sorry this is happening to you! Good luck and you are in my prayers. Thank you for all that you do for this country
Comment by confused — June 6, 2009 @ 10:01 am
For getting the owner of it ends now married or should not want to me have kids and love it ends now married or should count.
Comment by Cleo — June 6, 2009 @ 11:29 pm